As part of the Centre Myself programmes, we sometimes ask the participants to rate their level of confidence on a scale of 1 - 10. The responses are always interesting and often come down to an understanding of the following:
What does being confident mean to you?
Is it walking into a room full of people you don't know? Being able to wear the clothes you always wanted to without feeling self-conscious? Leaving the house?
Just the thought of some of these actions can trigger anxiety in people.
They could never do that. They could make a fool of themselves. Something could go wrong.
I ask you this - what are these beliefs costing you? Are you missing out on a life of beautiful and joyful experiences?
If your days are filled with 'I've always wanted to..' and 'I wish I had the confidence to...' ask yourself:
What would a confident person do in this situation?
And then try imitating it.
I'm not a fan of the description 'Fake it until you make it.' There's a sense of you trying to force something which is in fact a process, a muscle that needs to be built up over time. I have instead heard it described as 'Practice until you embody'. That's what it is - a practice. A little bit every day until you've been doing it for so long it becomes habitual.
What would a confident You do?